Have You Kissed The Girls...
And Made Them Cry?

There was a time when men protected their daughters from heathens, hustlers, players, predators, pimps, dawgs, and other indiscriminate males.

There was a time when men honored women and knighthood, chivalry, and nobleness of character were the rule of thumb amongst men.

Since that mindset has shifted, many men are responsible for inflicting women with some severely damaging psychological scars, physical pain and emotional trauma. Have you ruined any female’s life? Have you caused any females to have deep emotional problems?

Before you answer those questions, take the damage assessment test…

by Gillis Triplett

  

Kiss The Girls... And Make Them Cry?
One of my best friends in high school, (I'll call him Mike) grew up in a single-family home. Mike never knew his dad, and his mother was wantonly promiscuous. All three of her children were born out of wedlock... to different men. She raised them to follow in her footsteps. Her two daughters were versed at using their beauty and bodies to manipulate men. The three women would tell Mike all of the time that he was going to be a heartbreaker and they trained him how to be one.

They showed Mike how to seduce women and how to gain control of a woman's emotions. Although he was still in high school, Mike had become a master of seduction! When I saw how the girls swooned over him, my mind was made up... I wanted to be like Mike! He agreed to school me on the rudiments of being a player.

Me and countless others boys always wondered what Mike said to these girls to get them to fall in love with him and to have sex with him. I sincerely thought he was going to show me some super smooth moves and give me some dazzling words to say. Instead, the only thing he taught me was how to be a liar! He told me to lie about everything: my age, the grade I was in, and anything I could think of to convince a female to have sex with me!

He showed me how to instantly get a girl�s attention and how to look a girl in the eyes and say, "I love you," even though I didn't love her. He instructed me on how to evade her or break-up with her after I got into her panties. He showed me other tactics such as how to turn a virgin out, how to manipulate girls and how to date two or three females at the same time. After he was all said and done, I no longer want to be like Mike.

 

From Protectors To Predators... From Princes to Pimps
Multitudes of males in our society are like Mike... they have been indoctrinated to be predators rather than protectors, playa players and pimps rather than princes, and knights in pining armor rather than Knights in shining armor. These males have even arrogantly crept into the church pews! It was a common thing for Mike to prey upon and then seduce untrained church girls. After he stole their virginity and broke their hearts, he would laugh and giggle about his destructive sexual exploits. When we graduated from high school, I lost contact with Mike, but the females whose lives he stained with his presence, I still see every now and then. Some of them never recovered.

Mike never looked back to see if he had impregnated any of those girls. He never checked upon them to see if any of them had aborted his child, or contracted a sexually transmitted disease from him. He never cared if he caused any of them to be heartbroken, depressed, bitter, vengeful or suicidal. To Mike, it was all fun and games. Sex was just a sport and females were his trophies. Since being in the ministry, my path has crossed countless women who have been wounded, scarred, and damaged by males like Mike. How do these females react to being exploited, dismissed, dumped, kicked to the curb, used and abused? The answer may alarm you�

 

Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned?
Many of them react by exacting systematic and methodical vengeance against the male gender. Have you noticed the eerie trend? Follow it closely:

=> More and more females are brazenly filing false rape charges. They agreed to consensual sex, but afterwards, they felt exploited. For some women, that feeling is so sickening that they retaliate by using the District Attorney, a Grand Jury and the Police Department as their personal whipping stick.

 => More and more females are blatantly committing Paternity Fraud. The figures emerging from this crime are frightening. One third of all men who take DNA paternity tests, turn out not to be the biological father of the child. In most states, even after DNA tests prove two key points: (1) he is not the baby�s daddy, and (2) the mother perjured herself on the paternity affidavit, the current law allows these females to continue collecting child support payments. The defrauded men are threatened� pay her or go to jail! I have sat in paternity fraud trials and watched these women smirk at the men they successfully booby trapped.

=> More and more females are using the divorce court and family court as their weapons of chastisement against the male gender. These bitter females go father shopping for disposable dads. They find nice men, marry them, have children by them and in one fail swoop, they take his home, children, cars and cash without any semblance of a conscience. This is truly a hideous act of feminine vengeance. These females have made their minds up� they are going strip a man of everything to get payback for the males who stripped them of their virginity, dignity and self-esteem.

=> More and more mothers are abusing or cold-bloodedly murdering their children and leaving their husbands, boyfriends and lovers stupefied.

=> More and more women are being diagnosed with severe emotional problems, clinical depression, bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder.

=> More and more women are suffering from the psychological, emotional and physical effects of having an abortion.

=> To their own detriment, more and more women are engaging in wanton promiscuity.

=> More and more women are committing acts of domestic violence and becoming suicidal.

What would you find if you did a one-on-one indepth analysis of each of these troubled women? What would you uncover after investigating their background, family life, sexual history, and Relationship Resume? Overwhelmingly, you would find that the source of their vengeance and troubles stems from issues related to exploitation, abuse, domestic violence, rape, abortion, promiscuity, ruptured relationships, failed marriages and fatherlessness. These are acts that took place at the hands of men. Are all of the problems women face a result of what men have done to them? No, and I am not saying that!

Some women are just like some men, they have a rebellious heart and what happened to them was an intentional self-inflicted wound. But the majority of the issues that women face, stems from encounters they have had with men who either: (a) did not understand true manhood, or, (b) they altogether rejected their duties as a man. Have you caused a female to suffer psychological damage, left her with any emotional scars, or inflicted her with any physical wounds? To answer those questions you must take the Damage Assessment Test. A simple, �yes,� or �no,� answer will do.

 

THE DAMAGE ASSESSMENT TEST

Did you...  

1). Steal her virginity, (you were the first one to have sex with her outside of marriage) ?
2). Pressure, coerce or manipulate her into having sex?
3). Talk, persuade, coerce or force her to have an abortion?
4). Talk, persuade, coerced or force her to have a miscarriage?
5). Get her pregnant and then abandon her?
6). Have sex with her when she was a minor?
7). Give her a sexually transmitted disease?
8). String her along with the promise of marriage and then dump her?
9). Commit an act of date rape, acquaintance rape, or rape?
10). Enlist her to become your casual sex partner, booty call or hook-up?
11). Have sex with her and then shun, dump, or dismiss her?
12). Have sex with her and then vanish from her life?
13). Have sex with a prostitute, call girl or otherwise paid a female for sex?
14). Live with her outside of marriage, (i.e., cohabitation, shacking-up)?
15). Tell her that you loved her, but you didn't love her?
16). Take advantage of her when she was vulnerable emotionally?
17). Threaten her with abuse or violence?
18). Commit an act of abuse or domestic violence against her?
19). Lure, seduce or talk her into a dead-end relationship?
20). Recruit, seduce or trick her to reveal her nakedness to other males?
21). Use derogatory words/phrases toward her, after you exploited her?
22). Talk or trick her into supporting you financially?
23). Marry her and then display immaturity, infidelity, or irresponsibility?
24). Toy with her emotions by making false promises, vows or oaths?
25). Patronize a strip club, bordello or other venue that exploits women?
26). Purchase, use, distribute or view any form of pornography?
27). Esteem yourself as a player, playboy, pimp, lothario, lover, etc.?
28). Neglect your duty as her father? 

 

The Mandate From God�
If you have committed any of the above acts, you have abdicated your duty as a man to be a protector. Even if the woman or women initiated the act or happily consented to it, you are still guilty of renouncing your mandate from God as a man to protect them, (See article: The 8 Steps To Manhood). Concerning this critical issue, Jesus set the tone for all men to conduct themselves.

Matthew 23:37
O Jerusalem, Jerusalem,... how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not!

A hen gathers her chicks under her wings when she detects a threat or danger. Jesus used that powerful illustration to vividly illustrate how men were called to be protectors. He then scolded those men for neglecting their duty and responsibility. You had to be there to fully comprehend the Lord's anger toward these men. At the end of the verse, His heated words were, "...ye would not!" In other words, they refused to be protectors. Have you conducted yourself in the same manner as these men? Have you failed or refused to be a protector? Have you kissed the girls and made them cry? You took the damage assessment test, how much damage are you responsible for?

When you look in the mirror of life, do you resemble Mike? Have you stolen a female's virginity, left her pregnant and alone, or forced her to get an abortion? Have you toyed with a woman's emotions? Have you demoralized any woman by loving her and then leaving her? Have you participated in degrading and devaluing women by patronizing strip clubs or viewing pornography? The first thing you need to do, if you haven't already done so, is repent, (See I John 1:9). You not only sinned against her, you sinned against Almighty God, (See Matthew 18:1-10). You need to clear your conscience before God.

The second thing you need to do is make restitution where needed. That means being a father to the children you have fathered. I am not telling you to marry the child�s mother. The two of you together may be like trying to mix water and oil. I am saying if you fathered a child, you need to be their daddy. If their mother is vengeful or bitter and won�t allow it, be advised, you must use wisdom. I have watched these females glory in the fact that they had their baby�s daddy arrested on false charges. Talk to men who understand your dilemma and glean wisdom from their practical and legal insight. You can still pray for your child and support them financially. They need to know that daddy loves them and that you did not abandon them! This is your clarion call to stand up and be a man, (See Job 38:1-3). Not just any man, but a man of God!

The third thing you need to do is learn what manhood is all about! You may be one of the millions of males who were never taught what it takes to be a man. At Mastering Manhood, we�ll show you the ropes. We will impart words of wisdom into your spirit and help get you on track to fulfilling God�s vision for your life. Got questions about manhood? We�ve got the answers!

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Wale's song "Diary" should be the soundtrack to this article.

Phases of the male and female relationships

Dating is linear. Just like everything else, it has a beginning and unfortunately, also an end. In almost all cases, male and female relationships experience the same phases of the dating process, from introduction up to intimacy. With this kind of logic, men can expect some rules in dating. Below, I will discuss the phases of the female to male relationships and what a man has to do with it.

Introduction

This is where everything starts. Boy meets girl. Girl meets boy. If you like a girl, go introduce yourself and if you are a bit shy, be a little fuzzy, ask someone to introduce you to her.

Hook

The moment you were introduced, don’t turn yourself to a stone monument. Talk. Drop a joke. Communicate to her (subcommunicate) that you are a fun and comfortable person to be with. Once in a while, show her how you stand out in the crowd. Not too much though because it will back fire.

Screen

It does not follow that just because you are the man you are the only one who has to impress or do the hooking thing. This is the most common mistake of men. Don’t fall into it. You are also a human being who has a standard. Does she meet your requirements? Is she good enough? Ask her some questions. Does she know how to cook? Is she possessive? Whatever comes to your mind that will qualify her to you.

Touch

What separates a lover from a friend is the concept of intimacy. I am not saying that grab her right away after meeting her. Learn to touch. Learn to communicate through your body. It can be simple hand holding or a kiss in the cheek. However small it is at start, do it. The important thing is to start early and continue to escalate. This will lessen the awkwardness to more intimate moments. Also, this will also take away your passport to friend zone.

Vibe

Vibing is a very important word when it comes to dating. Vibing is talking without a purpose. Vibing is talking without worrying the outcome. Vibing is talking without being conscious to what you will say. Words just come out from your mouth when you are vibing. This is a great phase to really know the other person. Vibe with her. Listen to her. Share some secrets. You get the idea.

Bounce

Though not really necessary, it is great if you two shall share some experiences to different places. From meeting her, plant a goal to your head to bring her somewhere. It could be a park or your favorite restaurant. The idea is to involve as many as possible memories of you two together.

Intimacy

Everyone needs it. Women need it. Men need it. Give it to her. At this point you already knew each other very well. There is nothing awkward if this comes. This is inevitable.

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I hope you learn the basics ‘rules’ of dating a woman and the important phases of the male and female relationships. Every phase of male and female relationships are important because every phase uncover a part of you or a part of her that is important when you two enter a real relationship. So what are you waiting for, go out, test it and see if I am just making up a story!

 

-Twiggy

Take notes

Do you know how to keep a woman happy? Here is some advice on relationships for men.

The first advice on relationships item I have for you is to always be yourself. Many men dont feel that they are good enough to catch a beautiful, sexy woman, so they put on a show. But a confident man is the sexiest beast around. Have you ever noticed that some of the ugliest guys have some of the prettiest women? That is because they display a level of confidence that is more attractive to women than physical looks.

Next, you should do the little things. This means offering to take her car in for an oil change or giving her a bag of Jelly Bellies (her favorite flavors) from time to time. Sometimes men think in terms of grand gestures, when it is the little things add up to long relationships.

This ties into the next piece of advice on relationships: appreciate her. You shouldnt take her for granted. Let her know that you value her.

Next up is not obviously looking at other women when you are with her. Women think that you are comparing her to the woman youre looking at. They dont understand the whole concept of the day I stop looking is the day I die. This comes from the biological drive for monogamy in women. Women are looking for a lifetime partner for a man with whom they can raise children. They cant help it. Thats how evolution designed them. So minimize the ogling, especially when shes around.

You should try to make her laugh. While men list good looks at the top of the things they need in a woman, women list a mans sense of humor. So, if you want the relationship to last, keep her laughing.

The next bit of advice on relationships comes in seeking common interests. Its great if you got together because of a hobby or an interest, but it still helps when you take an interest in a long standing passion of hers. If this means developing an appreciation for foreign films, so be it. This shows that you care about her and shell know you are one in a million.

Once you get the girl, it may seem like you dont have to try anymore at least as far as grooming goes. And, while women are less sensitive to looks than men are, they still like a man who makes an attempt. So, shave on weekends. Keep in touch with the latest fashion trends for men. In short, dont get sloppy just because youve landed her. You can unland her just as easily.

Shes going to need to know that she can integrate you into her circle of family and friends. A man must be part of her larger life, especially after the first few weeks of passion are over. So, make an effort to get along with her girlfriends and impress her parents. A woman relies on her social network to validate her relationship choices. Make an effort.

You should always be considerate of her feelings. Women are less stable than guys. Part of this is hormonal. When you are sensitive to her mood, you wont get on her bad side.

The final piece of advice on relationships is to be open to trying new things. At the beginning of a relationship, everything is new from the types of dates you arrange to the way you kiss. But, after a while, these things become routine. If you find that your relationship has fallen into a rut, shake things up. Try something new. It will go a long way to keeping your relationship healthy.

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Episode #213-"Character"

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Tariq Nasheed's Mack Lessons Radio shows are always very informative.  You may not always agree with what he says, be he always makes you think and are perfect to listen to during a road trip. Only problem is he tends to get sidetracked at times. On this particular show, fast forward to 15 minutes where he drops jewels about having good character qualities and dealing with people with character flaws.

Let’s face the honest truth: maintaining a strong, healthy, satisfying relationship takes a lot of hard work from both partners.

So, when financial issues arise,  coping with the additional stress is often the breaking point for many couples.

Especially given our current economic climate, how can you and your partner successfully deal with the money issues in your relationship?

Remember, even though you two are a couple, you each bring different views about money to the table due to your differing backgrounds.  For example, you may feel that saving for the future should be top priority.  However, your partner may believe that life is short and you need to enjoy your money in the present moment.

Now more than ever before, couples are feeling financially stretched to the breaking point. The reasons for this are numerous. Some of the most common financial challenges are:

• One partner is laid off
• A business venture fails that both partners were involved in
• The increased financial burden of caring for an aging parent
• The rising cost of childcare
• Conflicting  personal attitudes toward saving, spending, debt management, etc.

So, what strategies are available that can be used to cope with these potentially detrimental money issues? The following are several tips that many financial and relationship experts recommend to help you obtain the greatest chances for success:

1. Communicate with each other- This step may seem obvious, but many couples will often go through the most extreme lengths to avoid having a deep, meaningful discussion about their finances.  However, this step is crucial. If you don’t communicate with your spouse about the current state of your fiscal affairs, it will be next to impossible to create a common goal for your financial future.
2. Compromise – One very common trait among successful couples is that compromising with each other has become second nature. Compromise allows for more win-win situations than any other trait. In your money matters, it will become a necessary skill you and your partner must both master in order to keep your finances on solid ground.  For example your husband may want to purchase the latest, top-of- the-line, high-definition television. Instead, you prefer to place those funds in savings. One possible solution would be to suggest that your husband set aside funds on a monthly basis until the television can be purchased. Your husband will still get the television he desires, while you will be satisfied that a large, impulsive expenditure was avoided.
3. Get Professional Help- If you and your partner can not discuss your money issues without conflict, seek the professional help of a financial counselor or marriage counselor.
4. Maintain Separate Credit Cards- Keep a completely separate credit card in each of your respective names. This is done so that you both will maintain separate credit histories.  It is unpleasant to think about, but the reality remains that if you have joint credit card accounts it will be next to impossible to get  a loan, mortgage or credit card if you separate or one of you dies.
5. Create A Household Account- A household account needs to be created. Next, designate who will be the bill payer. Often one partner is more skilled at managing money than the other. It would make sense for that partner to handle paying the bills.  However, the other partner should be consulted on all financial matters as well as being able to handle all of the household’s finances.
6. Keep Separate Spending Accounts- The honest truth is that often the best way to handle arguments about money is to agree to disagree.  I highly recommend keeping your own personal spending account (this is separate from the household account) so that you each can spend your money as you see fit.

Finally,  it is important to remember that you and your spouse more than likely come from different backgrounds, cultures, economic status, etc. These differences do inform your present attitudes about money.  Be strong and make the decision to discuss your finances with each other openly and honestly.  Keep in mind that you two are in this together.